Dating in the dark couples still together
One young woman said to me, “So what’s the big deal? We’ve lost the ability to value what we have, including the people we’re supposed to cherish the most. The mindset that it never pays to fix things and that newer is better impacts our daily lives, lessening the sacrosanct value inherent in marriage. The more we nourish a relationship the greater we feel invested in this partnership.
We need to value the people and things we have in our lives. If we don’t automatically feel madly in love or don’t always see the fruits of our labor, what then? When couples look back through their years of being together they realize how much they have evolved. What would have happened if they decided then that it’s not what they thought it would be, so why go on together?
A young couple can find them selves married to a virtual stranger with a child or even two before they are 20 and the pressures are enormous .
They won't of course be economically self funding relying on handouts from state , Kolel and or parents who invariable will interfere far too much .
We’ve become used to communicating through texts instead of speaking.
Singles have told me that their dating hit a roadblock when they began texting instead of talking.
Somehow it has become no big deal to throw away or replace what we’ve lost.
Couples listen with half an ear and see with half an eye. We also get bored easily with those next to us; constantly checking our phones. The greatest gift we can give ourselves is to put down our devices and pay more attention to those around us.
Whether you are single or married, or raising children who will be in future relationships, contemplate how these four factors affect your relationships.
She is the leader of Hineni Couples and daughter of Rebbetzen Esther Jungreis.
Slovie is the author of the parenting handbook, Raising A Child With Soul.