Dating while separated
It is much easier to work on problems with a spouse who enjoys you, wants to be with you, and is motivated to work on the issues that are getting in the way of that.
Marriage is something you use together with your spouse, later on, if issues remain.
During the connection phase of reconciling, you have to be careful not to slip into “convincing mode” for any reason.
That’s not easy to do when your spouse is telling you it would be better if you were just friends or to give him or her “space.” Clients often need a lot of guidance at this stage because their emotions make them want to react in a way that just pushes their spouse further away.
Doing that at this time would just break the new emotional bridge that you have started to form.
Especially when your spouse is first separating, the connections you make by agreement will be very weak.
But, if you do this well, your spouse will increasingly enjoy communicating with you.
When you only have minimal contact with your spouse, each word can be important.
A really nice message can backfire if it contains just one needy word.