Normal dating rules
After spending a few days trying to adjust to the fact that the handsome co-leader of my small group was seven years my junior, I had just realized that he was actually eight years younger!A question I receive often is, "How did you make the decision to date and marry a younger guy?If he had still been a "college kid," I might have had a hard time feeling like we were equals.And while the same life stage can seem to erase an age difference, Willy Wooten, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who has been counseling for over 30 years, encourages couples to think ahead.
Let me give you some insight as to what most guys are expecting to happen. I guess it was because I'd heard two or three stories of the woman being seven years older, so I'd sort of decided that was the outer limit of age difference acceptability. (And I would hit 31 a month before his next birthday.) Feeling defeated, I sat at the small wooden table in Starbucks, where I was meeting Kevin for the first time since my startling discovery. In case you're wondering, I married that guy eight months later. I don't know why this one year made such a difference to me.You don’t have to deck yourself out every time you see me.I’m attracted to you, not the clothes you wear or how perfectly you curled your hair. I’ve been with you this long, which clearly indicates I’m in it to win it.