The chat requests from adult speed dating are fake
Most professionals will at least have a Linked In page. Do some reconnaissance by using search engines to find public records.
A recent Canadian news story shows a darker side to this, however.
I have been to four weddings of couples who met and fell in love using online dating sites. Unfortunately, like many other facets of online life, dating scams have increased dramatically.
Whether are you communicating with someone who claims to be someone they're not, or are faced with a criminal who has intentions of scamming you out of your life savings--or worse, intends to physically harm you--you have to be careful.
If they refuse, or make some excuse, that is a red flag.
If they have only sent you one or two photos, it is likely that they took that photo from someone else's social media page or from somewhere else on the Internet.